GIRLTALK

Hey Ladiesss

Relationships - Motherhood - Coparenting - Love - Family - Self-care - Health - Being (yoU)nique - DIY - Mental Health

Learning YOU

I want to ask you a few simple questions, hoping you can answer them honestly. What’s your favorite color? What’s your favorite food? What’s your favorite TV show/book right now? My answers are Pink, Mexican, and Once Upon A Time. Pretty simple right? Let me ask you a few more questions. What makes you happy? Where is your ideal date? What would a perfect day for you look like? Is your current life in the place you want or heading in that direction? If not, who’s stopping you? Those were a little tougher to answer huh? Yeah, I had to sit and think about it too. Okay, now here’s the last set of questions. When was your previous self-care day? What gets your spirit lifted when you feel drained? When was the last time you prayed? When was the last time you worked on that dream of yours? When was the last time you completed something that you started?

Now I know that was a lot to digest, but if you cannot answer all the questions, write them down and answer them for yourself later. Remember, there is nothing wrong with “not knowing” it’s just an opportunity to expand your knowledge of something. In our case today that something is all YOU. I have learned that if you don’t hold yourself to a certain standard how can you expect someone else to hold you that high? We have to become exactly who we want and what we want. If I believe I will be a writer, I will surround myself with other writers and book scholars. I wouldn't surround myself with dancers or factory workers because our goals aren’t aligned for the same thing. NOT taking away from them and what they do it’s just not for me so I need to surround myself with like-minded people so I can give and receive knowledge.

In relationships, we want the flowers, 30 acres, and the mule we want dates, trips, etc…. DO we know how to take care of the flowers or will they just die in a day? Do you have the tools to utilize the acres? Do you have the mindset to build something on the acres or will we just have an empty canvas? Do you know how to communicate on a date past the “What’s going on?” conversation starter? Can you properly dress for the date or plan it out? Can you see past the chicken fingers and fries on the menu? What about the trip? Are you someone that prefers car rides, planes, or trains? Are you somebody that under packs or overpack? Are you a shopper or a site seeing person? Are you an adventurest person or subtle? These are things we need to learn about ourselves before we try to be with someone else. Learning YOU is the best process anybody can go through. During this stage you will begin to learn your worth, your likes and dislikes, your demands and requirements, and your expectations….. shall I continue?